Here's a mindblower for you

I've spent years thinking that I didn't really have the parents I needed. My mom was too controlling, too judgemental, too driven to perfection....My dad was too, well, gone most of the time. Too emotionally stunted. Too angry. Too scared. Well, something I read in all of this baby stuff that says "don't worry, you'll become the parent your child needs." I found it very comforting, as I worry about being a good parent. A minute ago, it hit me. The same is probably true of my parents, now isn't it? They were the exact right parents I needed to become the person I am today. Flaws and all -- theirs and mine. Wishing they'd been better at X, Y and Z would mean I'd be somebody else. Told you it was a mindblower. There go a few years of precious resentments. I liked those resentments. They were cozy. Guess I'll have to re-evaluate. Again.